There's a deception we learn in our Western culture that bigger is better. Or, if you are a business owner, that you have to work hard to have more clients or customers in order to thrive. Success and popularity are driven by an egoic need to have more, and so, we keep adding on. We do more to get more, and the more we get, the more we wind up needing, because we realize that we still don't have enough. Its a vicious, never-ending story.
It makes sense, on surface level, doesn't it? But when you start to dig into the reality, you realize that the bigger truth is, and always has been, quality over quantity. How come it is, then, that when it comes to people, we seem to forget this basic fact. And all too often, we continue to allow people into our lives who do not align with our same frequency, creating ongoing drama and issues.
Over the years, I have known a lot of people. I actually really like people. I enjoy getting to know people and especially having deep conversations, and authentic relationships. I've never enjoyed large parties or big gatherings, but give me a good friend or two, chatting, and I am in heaven.
And that's the thing. I've realized that my friend list has gotten smaller. Of course since the studio closed I do not get to see people and converse with them nearly as much. I miss that. But I also realize the need for smaller circles, and the power of curating special people, true people, in my life.
It doesn't seem to matter the reasons that people fall away, does it? Whether you have a falling out, no longer share mutual interests, or simply no longer resonate with them, its all the same in the end. They're out of your field. And whatever you came together to do, that time is now past.
Ah, but those sacred ones who stay in the field. Those who you can not speak to for years, and reconnect only to fall right back where you left off, as if no time has passed. Or those who show up when you need them, no matter what is going on in their life. These precious ones are the ones to focus on, the ones to honor, the ones to build stronger connections with. These people are your true ones.
We don't need more friends, more customers or more acquaintances. We just need the right ones. And to find them, we have to become ultra true. When we get real with ourselves, we find that those in our life are the real deal too.